The Big Transition

Transitioning from a relationship of being play partners, or a Dom with a collared submissive where they don't live together, to a living situation where the couple does live together can be difficult. Prior to living together, most if not all of this couple's interactions have play. Now, they have things like bills to be paid, meals to be cooked, and house work to be done. Sounds like a drag, doesn't it?

For Daddy and i, the trasition wasn't quite as shocking as all that. We didn't have the previous play relationship. We met on-line and after one night together, decided we wanted to live together. While, i don't recommend that others do this, i've said in the past that on our first meeting i did everything wrong, it did prevent us from having preconceived ideas of what our life would be like when we lived together.

Daddy and i had a friend that we used to play with at times before we moved to where we live now. This submissive got into a relationship with, and was collared by a Dom that lived three hours away. They got together about every other weekend, and everything they did was fun or play. After one of their weekends together, she would call me and tell me about all the fun things they did. i will admit, at times i would feel jealous of her. Here i was living the lifestyle day to day, and it wasn't all fun. We would play sometimes, and we went to one or two parties a month, but we also had the mundane chores of everyday life that had to be done. We had to go to work, and pay our bills, and maintain our home. i remained submissive to Daddy, and followed the rules He expected me to live by, but it wasn't the same as all this fun she was always having.

When my friend and her Dom started talking about living together, she spoke to me. i explained to her that real life would not be like what they were doing on their weekends together.  And, while she listened to me, i am not sure she totally understood what i was saying or even really believed me.

Then she moved in with Him, and the things i had said started to be true. All of the sudden instead of playing she was busy making a meal, cleaning the house, or going to work. Other things were different, too. Up until that point, she had been pretty much free to come and go as she pleased. She was collared, but she was still in charge of her own life. Now, she had to answer for where she went and what she did. Even the money she earned was not her's to spend as she pleased. Before she bought anything she was required to ask for permission. Suddenly, she realized that everything i had told her was true.

Now, there may be D/s couples out there that disagree with me, but in my experience and IMHO, i believe that the transition can be difficult. This does not mean that it is impossible or that you should not try. It just means that it is important that you be aware of the possible difficulties you may face.