Polyamory

Last night i logged into an Alternative Lifestyle site that i frequent and i noticed a new profile. It turned out that this profile was written by a friend of mine, who up until recently was in a 24/7 relationship with someone. They bought a home not long ago. i was surprised to see this and ended up contacting a mutual friend and asking her what was going on and how my friend was. When she told me that they had seperated, i felt really sad.
Everyone's relationship is different. Whether you live a D/s relationship, an M/s relationship or something else, your relationship is never exactly like another, even if the "title" is the same. what works for one relationship, definitely does not work for other relationships. And, sometimes you try something in a relationship that you think will work well for you and it so doesn't.
For my friend, the begining of the end was when her Dom decided that He wanted a poly relationship. my friend was willing to try this, and they found another submissive that they thought would be a nice fit with their relationship. It turns out she wasn't. Or maybe their relationship was not strong enough to handle a poly relationship, or just maybe, my friend was trying to do this to please her Dom and ended up hurting herself.
Polyamory is a touchy subject for many people. Some think it is just wrong. Some are intrigued by it, but have never tried it. It can be an occassional thing, or lived 24/7 like other aspects of the lifestyle. There are people that enjoy it and wouldn't want to live any other way, and there are some couples that think it will add spice to their relationship. Some submissives agree to it because it is what their Doms want.
Many submissives do this. Not only with poly relationships, but with any major change in their relationship that their Dom decides to make, they go along with it whether they want it or not. Some do it because they want to please their Dominant and some are not given any choice in the matter.
 A poly relationship, is not, in my opinion something that can taken lightly or started without a great deal of thought and discussion. Especially if the members of this relationship are all going to live together. Submissives in this situation fall into three groups. For the first group it is any easy transition, they are just adding another person to their already happy relationship. Those in the second group might be all for it in the begining, but they find out there is a lot of competition, or jealousy between the two submissives, or they find out that the person they bring into the relationship is someone they are not compatible with. The last group are the submissives that really don't want to be in a poly relationship. They may find out they enjoy this new aspect of their relationship, or it might turn out being something that is not good for their relationship, as in the case of my friend.
She is not the only friend i have who is or has been part of a poly relationship. i have one friend who has recently started a relationship with a Dom who made no secret about the fact that they would be poly. They do not live together and He has told her they are not boyfriend/girlfriend, they are D/s. A few weeks later He added a second girl. This girl already has a boyfriend that she lives with, and the Dom sees her merely as a sex toy. Now, He has added a third woman (i say woman instead of girl or submissive because she is not a submissive) to their relationship. This woman He considers His girlfriend. She is not in the lifestlye, but realizes He is and is okay with it. My friend says she is happy. she knew what she was getting into from the begining, and decided it was a relationship she wanted to enter into. While i make it a policy not to judge anyone or they way they live, i could never live that way. i would be very unhappy.
Another submissive i know, i don't consider her a friend, involved herself in a relationship with a couple who had been together for six years. This sub and the Dom went out of town together and she asked Him to marry her. They got married without consulting the other submissive who was under the impression that she and the Dom would one day get married. They wanted the other submissive to stay in the relationship, but she chose not to.
Polyamory is not for everyone. Some people really like it, some people have bad experiences and hate it, and some people are merely intrigued by it. Everyone it seems has an opinion about it.