i have been thinking about this post for some time. i'm hoping that it doesn't offend or upset anyone, but i know that this is a touchy or hot button item with many people in the lifestyle. What is written here are merely my thoughts and opinions.
Background: A couple of weeks ago on one of the lifestyle websites i belong to, someone outed to the community at large a man who was a convicted sex offender. He showed up at a local party, and when it was discovered who he was, he was quietly asked to leave. He did leave, but some of those who were aware of what happened, felt that the community needed to be warned about this man, it was against his parole for him to be at a gathering of this type, and if he was found to be there everyone in attendance could be affected. So, he was outed on several of the sites groups and this caused a lot of controversy and the warnings were removed after the site received some complaints.
Now, i am not sure how i feel about this. On the one hand, i hate to see anyone outed, if that happened to me, it would be the end of my career, but on the other hand, this man has been convicted of being a sexual predator, not only a sexual predator but a pedophile. He was putting a lot of people at risk, and had no intention of telling people who he was, or staying away from parties.
Now, while this controversy was going on, and members were battling back and forth over what was right, and what was wrong, another member wrote a blog about what had happened and was rude to one of the young girls (over 18, but still young) who defended this man. Then this member started talking about ageplay, and how the whole Daddy/babygirl dynamic sickens and disgusts him. This blog and the the derogatory statements made by this man upset not only me, but many other members of the community.
He stated that he would never play with a girl who identified as a little, ok fine. He said that the thought is sickening to him, again ok, but not very tolerant of other people's kink. The part that upset me and many others was when he said that people who participate in ageplay are supporting pedophilia, and that men in the lifestyle who played Daddy/daughter or Daddy/babygirl often preyed on young, barely legal, girls in the scene to play out their pedophile tendencies.
Daddy and i, as you may have figured, are into ageplay. While i don't always identify as a little, i am an adult with adult responsibilities after all, i do frequently identify, especially during play as an eight year old girl. i know that some people think this is sick or wrong, but it works for us. Daddy and i both love children, i have worked with children through church for many years, we would never, ever think of hurting a child in this way. That is morally wrong, as well as illegal. We enjoy playing together in this way. We even belong to an ageplay group that has meetings, activities, and outings for littles along with their Daddy, Mommy, or other Big.
At these meetings we color, watch cartoons, blow bubbles, and act mischevious. But, we are all adults. Many littles donn't engage in any sexual activity when they are in their little persona. Daddy and i do. We enjoy this. Daddy had a previous submissive who liked to ageplay a naughty teenager. She would get in "trouble" in this persona, Daddy would punish her, and they would engage in sexual activities. Now, this girl had been sexually abused by her stepfather as a teenager, yet she enjoyed the ageplay dynamic as an adult. Some would probably say she was dealing with what happened to her as a teenager in this way, and if she was so be it.
The point is, ageplay works for us, and for many other people in the lifestyle, and while it may not work for some, it is something we truly enjoy. Why is it that some people in this lifestyle are so very intolerant? Don't we as a group get enough of this intolerance from the vanilla world? If you don't like my thing, that's fine. It doesn't make either one of us a bad person, we can just agree to disagree. One of the posts i read in response to this man's blog was, if you don't like what you are seeing, walk away and go get a cookie. i think that is a great idea.
Funny, it just dawned on me that your age play situation correlates with the baby animal pictures and butterflies on your blog. Oh, and the pink background. I always wondered why someone in "the community" wouldn't have more black and whips and chains on it.
ReplyDeleteAs for the age play thing, I can't really see how that would translate into support for pedophilia since both people involved are adults. People in the vanilla world role play all the time, from star trek to schoolgirls. Just as long as no one is being hurt or abused who doesn't WANT to be hurt or abused, I see no problem with it.
I don't blame you for being offended.
I have encountered some intolerant attitudes among some people in the BDSM community - they seem to mirror the community's bigoted attitudes - despite belonging to a community that is often misunderstood, mistreated, etc. People look at you and make assumptions - he's old. she's young - cradle robber! It is so easy to slide down the slippery slope of prejudice & hate. I hope you can find more tolerant folk in the future.
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